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Synergy

A SINGLE draft horse can pull a maximum load of 4,000kg.  So logically we could expect that two draft horses can pull 8,000kg, right?  Actually two untrained draft horses can pull 12,000kg and if trained […]

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Relationships: ONE SMALL LETTER

When Yuri Andropov became leader of the Soviet Union in 1982, the Cold War escalated. Andropov, previously leader of the KGB, was known for his brutal suppression of dissidents.  Across the world newspapers ran front-page […]

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Discharging Your Loyal Soldier

At the end of the second World War, Japanese communities recognised that their returning soldiers were not prepared for reentering humane society.  Their sole identity during their formative years had been ‘loyal soldier’. They were […]

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Climate, Weather and Relationships

Climate and seasonal weather; every relationship experiences both of these.  Climate refers to the general weather conditions in a specific area over a long period.  Every relationship has a specific climate, dependant on conditions such […]

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Great Expectations

Welcome to 2025!  Last week my orchid cactus produced a long awaited bloom.  It’s been a five year wait so I was quite excited when I spotted it early morning and rushed to take a […]

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The Pursuit of Happiness

“I just want my kids to be happy” is often said by well intentioned, loving parents.  However, research has shown that the focus on creating happy kids is implicitly teaching them that any time they […]

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Emotional Inflammation

In the past few crazy years a phenomenon has come to light known as ‘emotional inflammation’.  Similar to post-traumtic stress, it’s a response to uncertain circumstances, increasingly difficult situations and the non-stop news cycle in […]

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Home and Abroad

I write this from our son’s flat in Berlin, Germany. Our suitcases are packed ready for an early morning flight homeward bound.  We’ve been visiting the UK and Germany and while it’s been an amazing […]

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Bridled Strength

The rise in domestic violence and over all violence in our society raises questions of how to tackle prevention.  Social values are ambiguous guidelines that determine our social behaviour. The things we collectively value will […]

The Power of Attention
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The Power of Attention

My children were in their teens when social media became ‘a thing’ (anyone remember My Space?) I’d check how their homework was going and notice multiple tabs open on their screen.  I’d challenge them as to […]