At some point in life, almost every man will face a moment of quiet struggle.
Whether it’s the weight of expectation, the loneliness of long work hours, or the creeping sense that something isn’t quite right.
For Tamborine Mountain psychologist Nev Jones, Men’s Mental Health Month is a timely reminder that these struggles are common and often go unspoken.
“Depression and loneliness are two of the biggest issues I see in men locally,” Mr Jones said.
“Men tend to be more individualistic and stoic, which can lead to isolation. We throw ourselves into work or family and always prioritise others above ourselves.”
He said this self-sacrificing mindset, driven by social norms and outdated ideas of masculinity, can leave men disconnected from the very support systems they need.
“We’re missing that tribal connection,” he said.
“That village-style way of living where we were surrounded by people and connected to other men. The way we live now, especially in industrialised societies, robs us of that.”
While women are generally more inclined to talk through challenges and maintain support networks, Mr Jones said men often lack close circles of friends, making them more vulnerable to mental health concerns.
He encouraged anyone who notices a mate withdrawing or acting out of character to check in directly and without judgment.
“Just ask them how they’re going. You don’t need to beat around the bush,” he said.
“Normalise it. We all have good and bad days; it’s part of being human.”
Early warning signs of mental health issues in men include social withdrawal, irritability, poor sleep, and loss of interest in activities they once enjoyed.
“Often, it’s the family who notice first,” Mr Jones said.
“We play roles as providers and protectors, but sometimes we hide what’s behind the curtain.”
As June marks the midpoint of Men’s Mental Health Month, Mr Jones hopes more men will feel empowered to open up, check in with their mates, and begin rebuilding the connection so vital to mental wellbeing.
“Talking about it won’t make you less of a man,” he said.
“It might just save your life.”
