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A Travel Companion

There’s a saying in counselling world: Meet people where they are at; Don’t leave them where you found them; Take them to a place they cannot go alone. You don’t have to be a counsellor to […]

Photo by Michael Willson
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Team players

Anyone who knows me well, knows my husband and I are diehard Brisbane Lions fans.  I recently listened with interest to an interview with one of the young gun Lions players, Levi Ashcroft.  Levi’s role […]

Relationships
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The Zeigarnik Effect

I am guilty of leaving too many apps open on my phone and multiple files and windows open on my laptop.  It results in slow performance, application freezes and crashes as the system strains to […]

6 or 9?
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Assumed Intent

Assumed intent is the tendency to make assumptions about the motives of another person’s actions or words.  Mainly our assumptions tend to err toward negativity, a trait fuelled by our internal protector who is always […]

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The Institution of Family

Two major roles of parents are to protect and to socialise their children.  In today’s world these two roles are often at odds with each other.  Parents face the challenge of protecting their children from […]

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Under the surface

Several years ago I was experiencing unusual pain in my abdomen so my doctor referred me for scans.  The truth was, for the past year I had been working in a social program that involved […]

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The Elephant in the Room

The elephant in the room is a metaphor for an emotionally charged or sensitive topic that everyone is aware of but deliberately ignores.  Our silence creates an unspoken barrier that results in walking around on […]

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Creating A New Habit

Mark Twain once said, “To cease smoking is the easiest thing in the world. I know because I’ve done it a thousand times.”  Changing bad habits into good habits takes time, effort, and energy, and it’s […]

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Kintsugi

Japanese pottery has a concept called kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold.  Cracks are not hidden, they are highlighted and honoured.  The break becomes the beauty.  What if we treated our emotional wounds like that?  Instead […]

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Vulnerability

It is human nature to want to be seen and understood.  We rely on friends for a sense of acceptance and understanding.  Being willing to be vulnerable is an essential part of fostering close and […]