MIDDLE age tends to be a season we reflect on the choices made or not made.
Sometimes a huge “what if…” can hang over our head.
Sitting on a dusty shelf may be unfulfilled dreams of starting a business, changing career or making a move for a better way of life.
The biggest dream killer is the question “What if it doesn’t work?”.
It’s a valid question.
Every dream has potential risks and downsides. But there’s a better question, “How can we make this work?”
In every partnership there’s often one partner who is more risk averse that the other.
One partner craves stability and certainty while the other craves novelty and innovation.
Dreams can be extinguished before they get off the ground because of discouragement from one’s partner.
Dreams sometimes need railing in a little so that they become more achievable.
Every car has an accelerator and a brake and both of these are necessary for keeping the occupants safe.
It’s common in relationships that one partner operates the accelerator and the other the brake.
In healthy relationships it’s a smooth drive but when there is low trust or connection, the result is often conflict over which pedal to press.
Healthy relationships are open to working through the How can we make this work? process.
Communicating, listening and looking for ways to empower our partner to live out their dream allows them to become the best version of themselves.
Don’t be so risk averse only to arrive safely at death with a bunch of regrets.
Yes, it’s important to look before you leap but a full life requires the occasional leap of faith and an investment of trust in the one who is by your side.
